Holding a Funeral in the Rain
February 10th, 2017
It is impossible to “choose” the right day or time of year for a funeral. Not only can we not decide when death occurs, but we are often restricted on time depending on what the funeral home or cemetery has available. The result is that funerals tend to take place no matter what the weather—oftentimes in the middle of a downpour. (more…)
Memorial Tattoos
February 7th, 2017
Dealing with grief in the aftermath of funeral planning is, to put it mildly, a difficult task. While the challenges of choosing a casket, paying for a funeral, and coordinating the memorial service can be overwhelming, it is what follows that provides the real struggle. (more…)
Are You an Ideal Candidate for Cremation?
January 23rd, 2017
The debate of whether it is better to choose cremation over burial is one that has the potential to divide families and make funeral planning difficult. Unless the deceased was clear about his or her wishes or made advance funeral plans, chances are there will be some family members who feel strongly about cremation—and just as many who feel strongly about burial. (more…)
Funeral Superstitions
January 17th, 2017
Funeral superstitions vary by culture and by generation, and what one family believes wholeheartedly, another may consider folly. For example, the Victorians were notorious for their strictures on death and dying, with superstitions that ranged from covering mirrors and stopping clocks at the time of death to building specialty coffins with bells that could ring in case of a live burial. Today’s superstitions have a much more horror-movie feel to them, such as the idea that standing on the street corner when a hearse stops will signal your own impending death. (more…)
Babies at Funerals
January 13th, 2017
Funeral etiquette dictates that families think long and hard before they bring children to a funeral. In addition to questions of whether or not a child is equipped to handle the concept of death (and a possible viewing), there are other attendees to consider. Children can be noisy, disruptive, and irreverent at a time when other people simply want space to grieve. So, too, can kids ask questions—innocent enough on their own—but the way they are asked can evoke strong emotions. (more…)
How Much Does it Cost to Exhume a Body?
January 10th, 2017
Most of the time, the only reason we hear of a body being exhumed or a grave dug up is when it is commissioned by the authorities for reasons related to cause of death and solving a crime. Because this process is so invasive and disruptive, it is hard to imagine any other reason to open up a grave. (more…)