What’s on Your Grief Bookshelf?
December 19th, 2018
Visit any major bookstore, and you will likely find an entire section devoted to the topics of grief, loss, and bereavement. This is no accident; when you lose a loved one, reading is considered one of the best ways to cope. Whether you need information on the emotional side effects of loss, practical advice such as how to handle a parent’s finances, or even ongoing support as the years pass, there is sure to be a book designed with you in mind. (more…)
The Most Famous Famous Last Words
December 17th, 2018
Few of us get the chance to be immortalized in the moment right before death occurs. For most people, death is a quiet affair that involves healthcare professionals and maybe a few loved ones—we want it to be peaceful and dignified, and those are the only real considerations. (more…)
Legal Places to Scatter Ashes
December 14th, 2018
There is a popular story floating around about scattering the remains of a loved one at Disneyland. It is illegal to do it, and you can get kicked out of the park if you are caught, but that does not stop thousands of people from trying every year anyway. In fact, it is such a problem that the camera system is designed to catch people in the act and dispatch workers to clean up the remains before they become a health hazard. This means your loved one won’t, as you probably hoped, be spending eternity in the happiest place on earth. In reality, they will be sucked into a special vacuum and tossed out with the trash. (more…)
What is an Advance Directive, and When Should I Get One?
December 6th, 2018
An advance directive is more commonly known as a living will. This legal document outlines all of your wishes regarding your medical care in the event that you become unable to communicate with your health care providers. (more…)
Where Do You Grieve When There is No Grave?
November 28th, 2018
For most people, a grave is not just a convenient and legal place to lay a body to rest. It is also a place to mourn, a place to grieve, a place to go when you want to feel connected to the family member or friend you have lost. There are scientific studies that support the importance of having a physical space to mourn, as well as hundreds of thousands of anecdotal stories about how cemeteries help people cope with loss and grief. (more…)
How to Prepare for Your First Meeting with the Funeral Director
October 26th, 2018
When you lose a loved one, your first order of business is to choose a funeral home that will guide you through the burial decision making process. This funeral home will help you arrange the burial, cremation, funeral, and/or memorial service, up to and including selling you all the necessary items and preparing the body for the type of interment you choose. (more…)
Dealing with Grief through Photography
October 22nd, 2018
Everyone deals with grief and bereavement differently. For some people, it is a private journey that takes place almost entirely inside the heart and head. For others, mourning the loss of a loved one involves community, family, and as much outreach as possible. For still others, it is important to find a physical medium to commemorate a loved one. (more…)
Dealing with Debts after the Loss of a Loved One
October 17th, 2018
The financial aftermath of death can be a complicated affair. Some people have plenty of time in which to prepare for the death, which means they may have met with attorneys, made financial arrangements, and settled everything in advance. Other people (particularly those who die suddenly or who are not in a financial position to cover the costs of a legal advisor) might leave behind a pile of assets, debts, medical bills, bank accounts, and credit cards for you to wade through. (more…)
“After the Funeral” Etiquette
October 8th, 2018
There are plenty of guidelines that tell us what to wear to a funeral, how to send condolences to the family, what we need to know about buying funeral flowers, and how to act once we arrive. After all, we all want to make sure that we do our best to honor the deceased and support the family in their time of grief. (more…)